Everyone has a choice yeah. I just consider it harsh, if he is a good person and you fall in love with him I see it as a bit selfish to break up because of kids. I think anyone who goes through life will have baggage, many types, and kids isn't one that makes someone unworthy of love. Imagine if EVERYONE had that mentality? I see my friends who have kids, and it hasn't made their life worse. They still travel, go to clubs, see friends and ofcourse their kids are taken care of. I can see where your coming from, I just see it a bit different.